When growing up, the raising that we receive has much to do with our coping skills as an adult. And I have noticed that I, and other victims of emotional abuse, have certain behaviors that separate us from the rest.
If you, or someone you know was a victim of abuse, then you may want to read through these. Just being able to understand where another person is coming from, or understanding yourself better, can make all the difference.
1. Asking Questions Even When You Know the Answer
If you have ever been berated, you may doubt yourself, even when you know you are right. Due to this, you may find that you ask a million questions.
2. Constantly Saying “Sorry”
Children of abuse may feel as though they were never able to do anything right. In turn, they always apologize, even when they didn’t do any wrong.
3. Second Guessing Everything
When you have lived in the chaotic world of emotional abuse, you never truly believe in anything. Instead, you may always be in fear of something bad happening.
4. You Are Tough, But Also Very Sensitive
During a hard childhood, you learn to be tough, because you have to be. However, you also experience a number of emotions at a young age, causing you to be especially sensitive to your own emotions as well as others.
5. You Are Indecisive
It’s harder to make decisions if you spent your childhood hearing that you weren’t good enough.
6. You Are Self-Disciplined
In order to combat a parent or caregiver that constantly was searching for what you hadn’t done, or had done wrong, you may become a perfectionist. You are timely, clean, and organized. Many victims of abuse learn to over-do because they want to people please.
7. You May Be Sensitive to Loud Noises
If you have been raised in fear, you may be used to being yelled at, and associate loud noises with abuse.
8. Victims of Emotional Abuse Can Be Introverted
So many victims of abuse may be afraid of contact with people, and can sometimes try to distance themselves as much as possible.
9. You Have a Defensive Nature
You may perceive people as negative or offensive because of your previous abuse.
10. Having Attachment Issues
You may find that when you fear others leaving you, or abandoning you.
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